Our attitude plays a big part in our everyday lives and can
affect how our life may turn out in the future. If you decide to live
with a negative attitude, always expecting the worst and never enjoying
what you already have in your life, you’ll find that your inner choices
will reflect on the outside. However, if you have a good attitude,
you’ll be the kind of person who works hard, is a believer in the fact
that life is for living, and you will live the kind of life many would
aspire to.
Attitude comes down to choice, you can choose whether to have a good
or a bad attitude and whether external things can affect it or not. With
this in mind I’ve come up with a few ways to help improve your attitude
when you are struggling to turn a bad day into a good one.
1. Take action and then let it go.
If you have something you need to get done, and you’ve been putting
it off because the result could go either way, the best thing for you to
do to improve your attitude is to take the appropriate action required
and then let it go. Holding on, worrying and wasting precious time
fretting will only put a downer on your attitude. If you remember that
life is for living, and what will be will be, then you can’t go far
wrong. Worrying is a complete waste of your time—if it’s going to
happen, it will happen anyway, whether you worry about it or not!
2. Spend time with those who share your positive attitude.
This is a must if you want to improve your attitude. The people you
surround yourself with most of the time will reflect upon you and how
you live your life. So always make sure that these people share your
positive vibe, and lift you rather than bring you down. We are, after
all, only human, so there will be times when we get a bit down on our
luck, which makes it even more important to have good, positive people
on hand to encourage, support and inspire us.
3. Remember to forgive easily the limitations of others.
So often we get disappointed by other people’s actions or non-action.
Instead of getting angry or retaliating, the best way to improve the
situation and to improve your attitude is to forgive. Most people don’t
understand why they do the things they do or say the things they say. It
is through your forgiveness (which is not about letting them off the
hook, but rather letting yourself off the hook) that you will improve
your attitude. Holding on to grudges will only cause you more harm than
good because most people don’t realize how their limitations affect
others anyway!
4. Always act with a purpose.
When you take action, always take steps to act with a purpose, so
that your actions are in line with your values and who you are. Many
people walk through life blindly, with no real reason for what they do
and why they do it. Instead, live with a sense of purpose, so that you
go through life knowing the effect you have on those around you and why
you do the things you do. For an example, Walt Disney’s main purpose was
to “make people happy,” so next time you act, think of your purpose and
improve your attitude whilst doing so!
5. Always say, “Please,” and, “Thank you.”
Being polite when given help or asking for it isn’t a hard thing to
do, yet so often we forget these simple words, especially with those
closest to us. If you want to improve your attitude use, “Please,” and,
“Thank you,” every single time you are given the opportunity. Why?
Because what you give out you get back, so when you are nice to someone
who is helping you out or when you need some assistance, you’ll find
that you’ll get more than you bargained for—in a good way, of course!
6. Don’t compare yourself to others.
If you want to improve your attitude to life and to those around you,
quit comparing yourself to others. It’s human to compare our lives with
others, but when we do it too often we can drag ourselves down and
start to think that life isn’t going the way it’s supposed to go. When
we compare, we think someone else’s life looks better than ours. It’s
important to remember that we are observing the external view, and
things may look different behind closed doors. So spare yourself the
worry and stop comparing, only focus on your own life and attitude to it
and you’ll be much happier in the process.
7. Expect the best out of every situation instead of the worst.
How many times do you focus on the bad stuff that might happen in
your life, rather than the good? Do you hear yourself saying things
like, “Oh, I knew that would happen,” or, “I really hope this doesn’t
cost too much,” and, “I don’t want to be late”?
When life is hectic and you feel that you don’t have time to do what
you want because of what other people want from you, it’s no wonder you
can get so down and disgruntled about life. We tend to focus on what
could go wrong in our lives rather than focusing on what could go right.
In some respects we like to have a moan, and it seems complaining has become such second nature to us that we don’t even realize we are doing it.
So how about trying something different? Try not to complain for
seven days and instead replace any negative thoughts with a positive
one. Expect the very best out of every situation and see the improvement
in your attitude, you won’t be disappointed!
8. Wake up early every day.
I am a real advocate of early rising. For me it brings me closer to
the feeling of starting afresh, just in case yesterday didn’t go quite
as planned. I usually get up at around 4 a.m., although that kind of
time is pretty extreme to most people. However, when you plan to wake up
early and intend to make each day a good one, you’ll find your attitude
will change. It’s like you are taking the day by the horns and making
sure you get every last bit out of it and on your own terms. You’ll feel
in control of your life rather than just going through life in a blur.
Just try it, even if you only get up 20 minutes earlier than normal.
9. Live in the present moment.
As you read this you will probably have 101 things on your mind.
Errands to run, things you should be doing and things that have happened
that are worrying you. All too often we spend our days lost in thoughts
about the past or the future and never really living in this very
moment. When we live like this, we are never really comfortable with
ourselves because our inner peace is constantly at odds, which affects
our mood and our attitude.
Instead of rushing about, try to spend time watching your thoughts
and becoming more mindful of what you are saying to yourself. If you are
worrying about something, you are not in the present moment because you
are thinking about something that could happen in the future. Anxiety,
stress and worry are all signs you are not living in the now. When you
have too much of this going on it can lead to health issues later on in
life. To improve your attitude, learn how to take a break, to sit and be
quiet even if it’s just for 10 minutes a day. Your body and mind will
thank you for it, and so will your friends!
10. Be grateful for everything you have.
This always seems to come up whenever I write because gratefulness is
one of the most powerful attitudes to have in life. If you want a
better life, give thanks for all that you have each and every day. When
you rise early, practice grace before you do anything. This kind of
practice will set your day off nicely, your attitude will improve and
you’ll find you will receive more things to be grateful about!
So how’s your attitude today, does it need a little fine tuning?
No comments:
Post a Comment